Saturday, September 15, 2012

Making Bills and Roommate Issues

Hello Everyone:

Has anyone ever told you not to be roommates with a friend? I've been given that advise many times and have even given that advise to a few people, but back in April or March I suggested moving in with my best friend from college. I thought that this was a good idea because I could handle her whining and constant complaining. Also, she is a neat person, and while I'm not that neat, I could handle her neatness and her bad OCD. Well, after a few weeks of living with her, I realized that I couldn't handle all of that. In fact, most of it bugged the heck out of me every single day. But, then I noticed more that would end up causing big issues between us and our living arrangements. One of those problems was that my roommate likes to take up space. And by taking up space I mean she seems to have to have all of the space. My roommate lived near the town we were getting a place at and therefore was the one to pick out the apartment. Because of this, it seems that it's her apartment and I'm just staying with her. She has literary taken over the whole living room to where all I have in there is a book shelf and a poster. She organized the kitchen herself and that is when I discovered that she lacks the ability to organize. I've tried rearranging parts of it multiple times to make it work better just to come back to it to the way it was before. I had asked if I could place my bathroom stuff that my older sister had given to me for my birthday in the restroom, but my roommate told me that no her stuff had to go in there because "it's covered in duckies! we can have a duckie themed bathroom!". I also had plans for the closets we have in the living room and the big one in the hallways. I wanted to place our cleaning supplies in the small closet in the riving room so that it was right where we needed it and then I wanted to use the big closet in the hallways for jackets and shoes. Well, my roommate ended up stuffing the small closet in the living room full of boxes with her "left-over" belongs still in them and then placed her bicycle in the big closet because she didn't want to hang it up in the laundry room or lock it to the back porch. My roommate also has a pet cat. This is okay with me because I like cats. What is not okay with me is where the litter box is located. My roommate placed it in the laundry room. I like the fact that having it there keeps the odor from being every where else in the apartment. What I don't like about it being there is that cat litter gets all over the floor where clean clothes accidentally get dropped when being switched from the washer to the dryer and where feet step in it trying to get to something on the shelf because her roommate decided to put the useful stuff farthest away from the door and the useless stuff close to the door. Believe it or not but those are the minor problems bugging me right now. The really big problem bugging me right now is that my roommate wrote two bad checks at the beginning of the month. The first bad check went to the electricity bill and the second one went to her half of the rent. I'm horrible at managing money. I even talked about it previously in this blog. My roommate, one the other hand, has managed to be even worse than myself. And I spent over $5,000 in less than three months! Once I moved into the apartment I knew that I would have to change my money spending habits and start actually paying attention to how I spent it and how much I have on me. I've never had bills before and after I began to get them I started paying attention to my money. I've been barely pulling off paying bills and have needed a little help from my dad each time, but I have at least had the money to pay off the bigger portion of the bill. My roommate, however, started getting worse with her money when she move into the apartments. She stopped paying attention to how much she had in the bank and started to spend her money recklessly. To prove my point, my roommate bought a lizard two weeks ago. This was during the time of the month when bills are due. She even went and bought it while not knowing how much she had in the bank. How much did she spend on it? $200. She even bought it knowing that she didn't have the money to pay for it. The major problem now is that she was laid off of her temporary job. She went in knowing that the job was temporary and when she was laid off, she was surprised and kept expecting them to call her back quickly. The job won't end up calling her until the next big holiday comes around. That holiday is Thanksgiving! In fact, another person who works there told me today that she heard that they will not be rehiring until November. Also, though my roommate is aware that she won't be called in any time soon, she still refuses to search for another job and gets upset when her family tells her that she needs to. Also, one of her aunts has her own shop and will pay my roommate to help her work there. My roommate, however, refuses to work there except during the weekend because if her job does call her, they won't do it till 4pm...when she has to be at work by 4:30pm! And my roommate refuses to call them and to tell them that they need to let her know in the morning so that she can know if she works or not and be able to help her aunt when she doesn't or before she has to get ready to go to work.

That's all I really wanted to say. I'm just really stressed out because I don't want to end up being kicked out of my home and have to move back in with my parents leaving my job and the town that is close to my boyfriend. It's just really bugging me that my roommate would be so stupid and do such stupid things.

With All My Love <3

S.L.u.G.

PS: Oh, and my roommate got a notice today from the electric company about that bad check and was told that she needed to pay it off with an extra $30 late-fee or that the electricity will be shut off.   

Saturday, August 11, 2012

Some Fun Videos

Hello Everyone:

I decided that I wanted to do a blog involving some of the videos I have made just to share them with you and to make myself feel a little better since I've been in kind of a slump for the past few days. Enjoy!

With All My Love <3

S.L.u.G.


Wednesday, August 1, 2012

Being Punished for Being Yourself

Hello, Everyone:

Sit down, relax, and picture yourself sitting by a little cafe sipping on a nice cup of tea when someone walks by, points their finger at you and says "You're going to Hell for drinking that tea!" and then walks off. This may be an unlikely scenario but everyday people face scenarios similar to this because of their nature or the choices they make. The words "You're going to Hell!" or "God doesn't love you" echo in many people's ears and minds everyday, but it doesn't stop there. After hearing such things, they must then face the people who support those who say them and believe those words to be true. Most of us (if not all) have heard about the current situation involving Chick-Fil-A. It's not the situation that I want to discuss but the reactions to the situation. Messing around on Facebook, I've noticed how many of my friends support Chick-Fil-A. This made my stomach really squeeze tight because I realized how much I disagree with them. Many of them who support Chick-Fil-A brought up bible versus or God in some way. This bothered me but not because I don't like hearing about religion but because that what people say the bible says goes against what I believe though I believe in the bible. Get the problem? For a moment I was upset by the concept, but then I thought about it and decided that instead of being angry at those abusing their religion, I would change my own. I do not mean that I have decided to change my religion completely, as in I'm no longer a Christian, but in the fact that I'm going to stick to what I believe instead of what I'm told to believe. So many people seem to believe that gays, lesbians, and bis are going to Hell or that God hates them because...well, because they are being who they were meant to be. First off, I do not believe that God hates anyone. In fact, I believe that God loves everyone. I hate hearing people talk about how God hates someone. What gives them the right to say something like that? And what gives them the right to use the bible to justify what it is they are saying? I'm sorry to go on a rampage like this, but when people abuse what they have it really ticks me off. But I don't want to just talk about the supporting side, I also want to talk about the side that does not support Chick-Fil-A and the others that speak out against gays, lesbians, and bis. 

There's a church group coming to the town where I'm living in a week to protest at other churches about gays, lesbians, and bis. When my roommate discovered this, she did not respond so well. She was furious to such a thought and wanted to go to the churches and protest the protest group. I threw the idea down quickly because I believe that doing such a thing wouldn't make us better than the protest group but would actually make us the same. As someone who does not support Chick-Fil-A and other "hate" groups, I do not believe that throwing what the group is doing back into their faces will change anything, but would actually make it worse. Instead, I believe that one must hold strong to their belief and let it be known. There are many ways that this can be done and finding the right way is up to you. I believe in the bible and I believe in God, but I do not believe that gays, lesbians, bis, or anyone else that is different from me is hated by God or going to Hell, or that anything is wrong. I accept people for who they are, and I'm going to continue doing so no matter how many times I'm told to do something else instead. This is how I plan on standing up against Chick-Fil-A. No, I do not believe it will make a big difference but I believe that it will make enough of a difference in myself and in those around me and who come to understand where I'm coming from. We should discriminate towards those who are different from us. We have been doing that for many years and never has any good actually come from it, so why are we still doing it. I know that the next time I hear someone shouting out against gays, lesbians, bis, or anyone else, I'm going to hug my gay/lesbian/bi friend(s) and tell them that I love them for who they are and that I believe God does to, because that's the type of God I believe in, not the one others have made up to shower hate upon those who are different.

With All My Love <3

S.L.u.G.

Wednesday, July 11, 2012

Moving and Bills

Hello, Everyone:

Come this Sunday I will have been living in my new apartment for two full weeks. My best friend from college and I decided to get an apartment together after she was kicked out of her aunt's place. This is the first time in my whole life that I am truly living on my own. I did live in the dorms while attending Emporia State, but the dorm life is entirely different from living on one's own. When I started looking at college, I looked for ones that were not too close to home. One of the reasons (and there were many reasons behind doing so) was because I believed that it would prepare me for living on my own in the future. Well, it didn't, and I'll tell you why.

I think it will be best to start off by talking about the one thing that is important to survive in this world. Money. Sadly, if you're going to live on your own, or live at all, you need it. Now, college is not cheap. You have to pay for food service, classes, your books, and that's only naming a few expenses. Then, on top of all that, you have to worry about surviving in the dorm room. Stuff to decorate (if you want), self-cleaning supplies (shampoo, etc.), and such. That all ends up adding up. Well, there are three options for paying for college. You can either be lucky and have a really rich dad/mom and have him/her pay for your college degree, you can pay for it yourself, or you can get financial aid. Most people go with financial aid because they either do not have rich parents or cannot pay for it themselves. I went with financial aid. Luckily, financial aid covered all of my expenses and I even received money back from them. The wise choice to do with the money I received would be to take some for myself and place the rest of it in a savings account. However, I did not do this. Instead, I spent it faster than one can say "Bob's uncle married Jane's aunt" (though why one would say that is lost to me). That was my first mistake and lead to my second one. My second mistake was not finding a job. While I spent my time empty the cash out of my pockets I had no means of putting it back in. This meant that I dug myself a whole, and I dug it often. Because of my bad spending habit and not having a job to put money back in, I ended up having to have my dad bale me out quite often. Today I feel horrible about having done so so many times, but back then, all I cared about was having more money, and, obviously, not by means of me working. These two mistakes where what killed me the most about not being prepared for living on my own. Other minor mistakes (like going home for summer break which kept me dependent on my family and staying up late during school which makes getting up early for a job difficult) also effected me but not in such a high manor.

The reason not saving money was such a big mistake was because of instead of having money saved up so that I do not have to worry about bills until I have fully settled in, I am facing the challenge of getting bills paid on time. This is my first time ever having to worried about any form of bills. Waiting until I had a place of my own to take care of bills was also a big mistake. While going to college, I should have thought about taking one or two of my own bills (like phone and insurance). This would have taught me to budget my money and it also would have prepared me for when more bills arrived. Having not done that, I am now facing too much at once. Instead of having only two bills to worry about and being prepared for having bills, I now must pay seven different payments almost every month. This is where not having had a job while attending college comes into play. While attending college, I could have found a simple minimum wage job that would have provided me both with a little extra cash and experience. Because I decided not to find a job, I started job hunting with a small amount of experience during a time where the economy is rough and finding a job is almost nearly impossible. Amazingly I managed to find a well paying job. Now, this may seem like a bit of luck on my side, but that's where staying up late and sleeping in hit me hard. My job started at 5:30...in the morning. I had to be up by 3am every day in order to work a ten hour shift. I could have probably handled this job if, A. I had worked in the past four years, and B. If I had done a better job with my sleep schedule while in college. This job paid $9 an hour and I worked 40 hours a week (10 hours a day). There were only two problems with the job that made me hate it: the hours available (I'm talking about the time not the amount) and the lack of motivation I had to do it. I will be talking about motivation in another blog soon, but wanted to say that lack of motivation is never good to have while having a job. I came home miserable every day (which will be another blog topic (probably to go with the motivation)) and I decided to quit. I now have a new job that pays minimum wage and can only offer 20 hours a week (if that). Though the money is not high and the hours not quite enough, I am happy with this new job, but it is no where close to helping me pay bills.

To get an understanding of how horrible it is, I start by showing you the break down of my budget and then the break down of my last pay check. First off, the break down of my budget goes like this:


Bills:
                Rent = 322.50/month
                Electric = ?
Needs:
                Gas = ~15/2 weeks = 30
                Oil = 30/2-3 months
                Food = ~50/2 weeks = 100
                Phone/Insurance = 20/month
                Internet = 20/month

The main bills are Rent (including heating [water and trashed is paid for by apartment complex]) and Electric. I currently do not know what the electric will look like because it was just switched into our name and we won't be getting our first bill till the end of August. The main Needs are Gas: The amount I usually place in my tank is $15, which gives me half a tank full. If I do not go very far, I can run on half a tank for two weeks, so I'll be roughly paying $30 each month on gas., Oil Change: My truck's oil must be changed every 2-3 months depending on how much and how far I drive. Back at home a basic oil change cost around $30. I have not decided where to get my oil change at my new location and do not know how much it will cost yet, but I am hoping it will not be much higher than $30., Food: My roommate and I had decided that we will each pay half the cost for food. This has not happened yet due to neither of us having money at the same time as the other one. When we finally start splinting the cost, my hope is to not go much over $50 for both of us, which will equal out to $100 dollars a month., Phone/Insurance: Talking to my dad, he is either deciding to have me pay him for my part of the phone bill or having me pay for my insurance. Either way, it will equal out to $20 a month., Internet: My roommate gets internet through her phone company for $50 a month. Since she is allowing me to use her internet, she has said that I should pay $20 a month for my share. The total of this entire budget equals out to $522.50 each month I pay for everything.

Now for the break down of my last paycheck.

Paycheck: $111.70 ($108.70 after being cashed at Wal-Mart because I do not have a bank account at my new location yet and had no way of sending the check down to where my other bank account is).
Food: ~$59
Gas (+ energy drink): ~$18
Total Left Over: $36.29

That was my paycheck for my first job (the 10 hours a day one). My current job is paying $7.25/hr and I've worked (and will only work) a total of 6 hours today. I have yet to find out my schedule for next week and only have three weeks left to make at least $322.50. Now, lets do some math. If I work a full 20 hours in one week with a payment of $7.25 an hour, I end up making $145 a week. Now, I get paid every two weeks so I'm roughly making $290 every two weeks. There are roughly four weeks per month which means I'll be making $580 a month. Now, we subtract the lovely amount of $522.50 for a full month of all bills, I am left with $57.50. This is before I even know what my electricity is and before taxes are removed. As you can tell, I am in a tight spot and now must figure out a way to survive living on my own.

Now, I don't know if my point has come clearly across (I get lost in my long blogs), but I want you to know a couple of things from this blog. To under the first, I must share something my boyfriend once told me: "Never regret something you have done, for if you do, you will always be stuck making the same mistake over and over again." (or something like that). The reason I am sharing that is because I want you to know that this blog is not about me regretting the mistakes I made in college, but instead, I wrote this blog for two reasons. The first being that I wanted to get the feeling of dread these bills are causing me off my chest and secondly, I want to help you. I don't know if you're facing the same problems I am right now, or if you haven't even started to come close to being on your own, but what I wish is that you will learn from my mistakes if you haven't gotten out on your own yet. My dad tried to warn me about what it would be like out on my own and he tried to help me prepare for it, but I was naive and didn't take heed in what he was telling me. I hope that you instead are able to walk away from having read this blog with a sense of what to do that will help you when you begin living on your own, but I also hope that you think carefully about every major decision that comes your way. I have a habit of not doing so and I find that not doing so causes more harm than good.

With all my Love <3

S.L.u.G.

Sunday, May 6, 2012

Being Beautiful

Hello, Everyone

While on Facebook I came across a link to a video. The video was of a girl who in high school had been voted the ugliest person in the world on Youtube. I shared the video on my Facebook because it was of a touching story about how this person (who has a rare condition that only two other people have) overcame what had happened to her on Youtube. Surprising to me, one of my friends commented on the link I shared saying that the person should "do the world a favor and shoot herself" like others had suggested on the Youtube video from her high school years. This made me stop and think about the concept of "beauty" and what it means in today's society. I decided to search the internet for some answers before telling you guys what I thought about it.

Article/Video Link: http://www.godvine.com/Girl-Voted-The-Ugliest-Woman-on-YouTube-Makes-a-Heartfelt-Video-1464.html

On urbandictionary.com, one of the definitions for beauty fit what I believe to be today's society's idea of beauty: Beauty is a corporate invention designed to promote the suffering and insecurity of the masses for the sake of profit. They say it's a state we're all supposed to achieve in order to ensure economic, financial, social and recreational success.

In today's society, beauty has become a image, not a concept of someone. Being beautiful, in today's society, means being a size 2 (if even that!), having the perfect features, being flawless, and every other outside concept that society has placed onto the world. But what did "beauty" use to be?

Girls from the past would probably faint at the sight of what is considered beautiful today. Today, being beautiful means being skinny, but at one time, "beauty" was having wide hips (men believed that women with wide hips could bear children easier). It is true that outside beauty has been important throughout the years, but it seems like it has become more of an extreme (even though women are no longer wearing hazardous makeup) than what it use to. This is because outside beauty has taken place of inner beauty. (see http://www.ukhairdressers.com/history%20of%20beauty.asp) for more information about the history of beauty.)

Today, when people talk about how beautiful someone is, they are most likely speaking about looks than personality. Today, it is better to be someone who has perfect hair and close to a size zero and have a b*tchy attitude than to be someone who's hair is always a mess and a size twelve but be the kindness person on Earth. What has happened to society? When did being a complete b*tch become hotter than being the sweetest person ever?

Beauty should not be about looks. It should be deeper than that. Beauty should be about the person's attitude and how she treats others. Beauty is the kindness that lies within someones heart, not the amount of makeup on her face.

PS: I'm sorry that this has been applied more towards females than males. It is just that the idea came from the video that was about a female.

PSS: Involving those who are looking at this blog due to the photo on facebook, please put "beauty" (<- just like that) in your comment on facebook before commenting.

Wednesday, May 2, 2012

Vlogs and the Misspelling of Words

Hello, Everyone.

It seems that though I may be graduating in ten days with my Bachelors of Arts in English, I still lack the ability to spell. In my intro post, I wrote that I would like to "interrupt people into my blog". What I had meant to say was that I would like to bring my readers into my blog. I want my blog to be more than just about me. I don't really want to interrupt anyone...unless I have to.

In other news, I wanted to speak a little bit about vlogging today. For those who do not know what vlogging is, vlogging is video blogging. I did vlogging for a short amount of time. This is one of the reasons why I am keeping my page simple still. I have currently been unable to finish two steady things, though both started off through memes I had found. Anyways, I wanted to share some of my vlogs with you. These vlogs are to help show what I mean when I say when I say that I want to bring my readers into my blogs, though I will be doing it differently, since, obviously, the other way didn't last very long. So sit back and relax (if that's possible to do while listening to my voice) and enjoy the following videos.



With all my Love <3

S.L.u.G.

Wednesday, April 25, 2012

The Beginning

To Everyone:

Welcome to my blog! I know it is currently simple, but that is due to the fact that I'm new to blogging and I don't know how well I'm going to keep up with it, so I decided to keep it simple until I figure out what's going to happen. So, a little bit about my blog. My blog is titled S.L.u.G. This stands for S. (Susan), L. (Lee), u. (you), and G. (Getman). I want my blog to be more than just about me. I want to interrupt my readers into it. This is because I don't like talking about myself. I find it rather boring, so this blog is going to be a way for others to talk to me. Now, I will share a little bit about myself or this blog really would not go anywhere. I am also going to be sharing my writing (mainly just the poetry) on here and some photos. I guess you can consider this blog to be my way of introducing myself to the world and giving the world a chance to introduce itself to me.

Will all my Love <3

S.L.u.G.